A few days ago, I was at a friend’s place for dinner. Nothing planned, just a normal evening with phones on the table and food being served. At one point, my friend was going through his WhatsApp messages on his iPhone and suddenly stopped.

He had opened a chat from a relative who had passed away recently.

I told him what I usually do. After someone passes on, I remove their contact and also remove the connection on social media. Not because I want to forget them. It just feels wrong to keep that line active. So I asked him to delete the contact.

He tried, but the delete button option was not there for this contact.

We thought it must have been some phone sync or settings issue. Another friend picked up her iPhone. She searched for contacts of relatives and friends who were no longer around. She had seven or eight of them and tried deleting them.

She could not delete a single one. A shiver ran up my spine.

She then tried deleting a few other contacts, almost as a test, and those worked perfectly. The delete option showed up immediately.

No one said anything for a bit.

To check further, I took out my phone. I realised there was a contact of someone who had passed on that I had forgotten to remove earlier. I opened it and deleted it straight away, without any delay or issue.

Working with dowsing has made me notice moments like this. After a person leaves the physical world, the body goes, but the connection does not always stop. It lingers through past experiences, emotional traces, and habits we do not question.

Sometimes through a phone contact.

Every time that name shows up, there is a reaction, even if you tell yourself there isn’t. A pause, a thought that cuts in and then disappears.

For those still here, this can keep things unsettled longer than needed. For the one who has moved on, it can feel like something still holding on.

Deleting a contact does not remove love. It does not wipe away what was shared. It only recognises that the relationship now exists somewhere else.

Earlier, people handled this in other ways. Homes were cleaned, clothes were moved, and objects were given away. No long explanations, just action.

Now, a lot of this sits quietly inside our phones.

Kindly check your iPhone sometime. Find a contact of someone who is no longer around. Try deleting it and just notice.

K Sharad Haksar
Dowser | Photographer | Creative Director

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